found this astrology blog that's really nice and provides more fuel for my personal "blame the planets" game.
"I’m going to touch lightly on Uranus/Mercury aspects because these show up in the charts of those with lots of intelligence, occasionally bordering on genius. These individuals can operate at such a different level than most people it’s hard for them to find something to talk about over coffee or drinks. The “common” touch is often missing making it hard for them to relate to others. Their challenge is to find someone who can talk their language." says Neith. I'm not that difficult in appearance (because i do have this ascendant/moon/venus trine) but there are indeed very few people i can relate to. as in extremely few. i'm not sure about being a genius, but i do have mercury conjunct uranus.
Also, Neith says "With Uranus conjunct the Descendant, we draw partners who are often brilliant and unpredictable. The challenge here for someone who desires a stable, durable relationship is to incorporate those qualities into themselves . . ." Brilliant AND unpredictable. That describes like... most relationships i had. Fine, with SOME exceptions where the unpredictable factor outweighed the brilliance (which other people interpreted as complete fruitiness but that's just subjective).
and i still haven't forgotten the all mighty pluto. what? obsessionnnnnnnnnnn.... that's the name of the game. add obsession to erratic and you get prolonged drama. because pluto can't and won't let go.