quick glance at astro chart shows that ...well, transiting lilith in aries is opposing my natal lilith so expect more intensity. and in the meanwhile it opposes saturn. like - rebellious woman-figure vs. stern father-figure. it sort of makes sense, thinking in retrospective. the self-titled "all-father", who's no odin by the way (jung would be so proud of me right now, using archetypes and all. also, i like odin, even if he's morally ambiguous. odin didn't get away with so many things as other all-father figures. he actually got dead for 9 days in order to learn rune magic and paid with his eye to gain knowledge) tries to impose the whole "my rules are to be blindly obeyed because i said so" attitude to a woman who operates on a different level and despite whatever ideas he might have in his head, will not accept someone else's authority without thoroughly questioning the motives first. and trying to put her down actually shows that he's very insecure about his so-called "power".   
if there's one thing i learned from lilith is to get in touch with the shadow side and own it. acknowledging that there is fear, insecurity, intensity, passion, vulnerability, anger, pain and it's ok to feel that provided a lot of relief. maybe this is where the confidence comes from. i shall go into uncharted territory knowing that it's the right thing to do. and i will not let go of the other's hand either. yes, this is also lilith thing. in my mind, it wasn't actually the "laying beneath" that made her mad. it was the "lay beneath him because i said so" that triggered her anger.