...seriously, after reading so much ridiculous relationships advice on the internet (astrology and tarot reading look like exact sciences compared to that!!), i've decided to come up with my own version of "how to tell if he's into you". i am dismissing the entire idea of "signs he's up to something" because, frankly, signs and omens are divination territory and therefore the interpretation can vary wildly and we're not getting anywhere.

so, according to me, your guy is really really into you if:
1. he's always there and he actively seeks your company. yes, it's that simple. if he wants you, he's all over you. and if he can't be there you know what he's doing, with whom and for how long. because he tells you so from his own initiative. the more he wants to talk to you and see you, the more he likes you.
2. he wants to know you and not only in the biblical sense. he's interested in your life, tells you about his life and asks for feedback. he wants to know about your friends, family, interests, daily trivia, blah blah blah, whether you're happy and volunteers information about these things too.
3. he's not vague or shy why it comes to relationship talk. he actually initiates it. he wants to know how things are between you, why they are like that, he makes plans for your common future. he's not afraid of potentially thorny issues and doesn't pretend there's no elephant in the room. also he says he loves you a lot. and shows it to you. that includes arguing with you over small stuff or bigger stuff or whatever
4. his friends and family know about how much he likes you and he wants you to meet them. the whole "us in public" is actually a major plot point. as long as he's holding your hand, kissing you and makes it very clear to everyone he is with you, shiny lulz, he actually likes you.
5. he doesn't make you feel insecure and doesn't take you for granted. ever.