i will completely disagree with the status shuffle on facebook "a relationship doesn't need any promises, terms and conditions... it just needs two wonderful persons - one who can trust and who can understand". hello, this is one of the reasons things go wrong in the world today and whales are nearly extinct and aliens won't come close to us. because relationships need exactly that - promises, terms, conditions, clearly stated, printed and sealed in blood if possible. it's probably the healthiest option. because otherwise we will swim in an ocean of confusion like we do now and someone will get hurt along the way - because mostly the person who trusts is the same one who understands so this leads to massive imbalance. you also need to include what happens if the person falls off the wagon in some sort.